Okay let me just say first I am so grateful that for almost 2 years Hayden has been the best sleeper. She did not start out that way and it took a lot of work, patience, and sleepless nights to get her there. She had never slept in a crib when she came home at 7 1/2 months....she had always slept with her foster parents. She slept the first 9 weeks or so sleeping only if she were laying on my chest. Then we transitioned to sleeping in the bed together, then her taking naps in her crib and then finally sleeping in her crib with me on the floor next to her and then we made it to her sleeping in her crib, in her room by herself. It took months and months to get there.....but when we got there it was pure BLISS. The child sleeps 12-13 hours a day with a nap in the afternoon. It doesn't matter what time she goes to bed....she still sleeps 12-13 hours, we have had to wake her up before. So please know from someone who LOVES and NEEDS a lot of sleep I am forever grateful that for 2 years basically with the occasion of being sick or being on a trip that Hayden has slept great in her own bed. I knew when she first came home she needed that comfort and time with us in the bed, and I am a big believer in adopted children co-sleeping or at least sleeping in your room depending on their age.
Okay so you know with this intro that the story is going terribly wrong right????
Well we went to the beach as we do several times a year, same place, same people, same bed, same routine basically. Hayden slept with us as she always does, and has always transitioned and almost welcomed her bed when we would return....NOT so much this trip. We have been home since July 8th and Hayden has slept one night in her bed!! So she and I have been in the guest room, I have slept on her floor(okay so she has slept in there 2 nights) or we have pushed David to the guest room, or we all pile into our QUEEN size bed. I have never really thought about a king, never really desired a king, but I think we will be shopping for KING this weekend. Anyway, she will take a nap in her bed no problem, but when it comes to bedtime she doesn't even want her ritual rocking....we have rocked every single night since she came home. So I have contacted an adoption specialist, I have asked EVERY single mom I know......and all I can say is we never knew so many kids slept in their parents room or bed. The adoption specialist has advised us to keep her in our bed or at least in our room. She said with her impending birthday she is going thru some development and this age is also becoming aware of dreams or nightmares, characters they see on TV, they are developing fears and we just need to make her feel VERY secure and let her work through it. So that is what we will do.....but I will very tired and so it will be necessary to start trying out king size mattress' so we can all get some sleep. But it seems gone are the days of 12-13 hours of sleep, and when she is in our room we can't get anything done in the evening unless she is staying up late and then she is waking up when David wakes for work. So the amount of time I have to get anything done is just about ZERO!
Okay so just to add a smidge of humor to this post as well as a segway to a picture. My good friend gave us a little princess toddler bed. It has been in our attic, and I had actually forgotten we had it. But we came across it the other day and thought "oh maybe this will work" and as we put it together, and even the first few hours it was together Hayden was beyond THRILLED!!! She LOVES the idea of it(it is about 2 feet from my side of the bed) But let's just say after one night she and I are back in the guest room. She did sleep in it for most of the night, she did come and get in bed with us very early this morning, she did tell me that she really didn't prefer to sleep in her princess bed....she thinks mine is much more comfy and that it would be alright if she just staying in our bed. SIGH
Tonight at bedtime and the mere mention of the princess bed brought on a fit and tears as though we were ripping her limbs off. So it goes......this too shall pass.....RIGHT????